Auto dealer hit with sex harass suit by receptionist who claimed bosses kept snapping her bra

Click on the link below for the full story:

http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_local/2010/03/31/2010-03-31_auto_dealer_hit_with_harass_suit.html

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This is not your personal bench....

Another fan sent us this video. Unfortunately, they did not sign their name, but here is what they had to say:

Couple snuggling. Girl totally disregards the fact there is a third seat and sprawls out rudely squishing the innocent old lady on subway.




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Stop The Sag

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Rude....and hilarious??

Fight, then, strangely, voguing and a fabulous sashay out the door. Best recovery from a fistfight in a public aid office, ever. [thanks to Gawker for the tip, and Tabloidprodigy for the video on YouTube]



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Sometimes it is better not to say anything...

Sometimes it is just better to not attack back. Below is an article from The Miami Herald that shows you how a big company learned that the hard way:

The Nestlé Facebook lesson: When being attacked, show that you're listening -- but don't sass back

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

That's the lesson a Nestlé social media administrator learned the hard way last week, after getting snippy with Greenpeace protesters who were repeatedly attacking the company's Facebook page.

Here's the breakdown: Greenpeace is protesting Nestlé's use of palm oil, an ingredient used in many of its products, saying it hurts the rainforests when not gathered in an environmentally sensitive way.

Protesters soon began to fill Nestlé's Facebook fan page with comments -- and many of those protesters changed their personal profile photos to be negatively altered logos, like changing KitKat to Killer and Nestlé to Nosale.

Nestlé then made a status update saying that they welcome the comments, but request that people not post with altered images of the Nestlé logos. It said any comments made by users with altered logos would be deleted.

But as the protesters cried that Nestlé doesn't support freedom of speech and they were "Big Brotherish,'' the Nestlé voice showed its annoyance, saying, "Oh please, it's not like we're censoring everything to allow only positive comments.''

Social media voices need to have personality to engage with users -- but NOT in this situation. When being attacked, show that you're listening and keep it professional. But don't sass back. Nestlé's Facebook administrator made the mistake of showing snark at multiple times, and now social media blogs are buzzing about how Nestlé handled it wrong.

Nestlé hasn't responded to our request for a comment. On Friday afternoon, the Nestlé Facebook administrator wrote that deleting comments with altered logos "was one in a series of mistakes for which I would like to apologize. And for being rude. We've stopped deleting posts, and I have stopped being rude."

The Nestlé page has also posted statements about the company's plan to use sustainable palm oil by 2015.

Greenpeace isn't just targeting Nestlé. They also are going after Dove. But businesses can learn a lesson from Dove's Facebook Page. When a user first goes to the page, they don't see a massive list of Wall posts from various users. They are defaulted to a "Home Page'' graphic tab.

On that screen, Dove, in a calm, professional manner, makes it clear that this is a place for fans of Dove -- but it also lets visitors know it has the right to remove comments on anyone being offensive or violating intellectual property rights.

The point is the tone. Companies use social media to present a voice. When people are screaming at you, it's best not to scream back.

As Nestlé sits by for days and lets negative comments take over its Facebook page, it's turning into quite the social media mess. If you were Nestlé, how would you use social media to respond?

Read more: http://miamiherald.typepad.com/poked/2010/03/the-nestl%C3%A9-facebook-lesson-when-being-attacked-show-that-youre-listening-but-dont-talk-back.html#ixzz0jPRORp6U

OUCH.

You know what? I hurt my shoulder, had to have surgery, am wearing an arm sling, and am in pain most of the day. It hurts to jostle my arm around. It hurts when I make sudden movements. It hurts when I have to walk very far. It hurts when I have to STAND ON THE SUBWAY OR BUS BECAUSE PEOPLE SIT IN THE SEATS FOR THE DISABLED OR ELDERLY. Listen, I know that people have disabilities that are not always clear to the naked eye, but many many MANY times, I see clueless tourists, unthinking youngsters, thoughtless entitled folk, and just plain "I-got-here-first-so-tough-nougies" mean people who sit in seats and make people like me, or people with canes, or mommies/daddies with infant in arms, stand and shimmy and shake with the whims of the bus/subway driver's braking foot.

Just....ugh. How hard is it to extend kindness to a fellow passenger on this planet??

-hmg

How difficult is it to RSVP?

This week I had a small party and had sent out an invitation. It amazed me how many people did not RSVP. I do not know and maybe it is me, but do these people not feel bad? How would they feel if I did not answer their invite to a party? Not only is this rude, but also a pet peeve of mine. Below is an article I found on the subject. In fact, I found a lot of articles on the subject, so maybe it is not just me.

RSVP neglect is more rude than violators seem to think

By Sue Hutchison
Mercury News

While the rudeness police have spent several years bemoaning the appalling manners of rogue cell phone users, another form of etiquette abuse has been growing like a cancer. If you've thrown a party or -- heaven help you -- planned a wedding recently, you probably know what I'm referring to.

Yes, the lost practice of the RSVP.

Some time at the close of the 20th century it became common for people to receive written invitations and then assume that their plans to attend -- or not -- would be telepathically communicated to the host. Forget about returning the enclosed stamped and addressed response card. Don't bother picking up the phone. Just say nothing.

Over the years, RSVP rudeness has been compounded by those who receive solo invitations to a formal party but decide to bring a date or other friends. They don't seem to understand it's also not polite to bring an uninvited guest and stick the host with the bill.

Uncivilized society

All of this was once considered behavior typical of those who were raised by wolves and did not understand that the French acronym for ``repondez s'il vous plai^t'' means ``reply if you please'' -- and reply only for those invited. But now the RSVP problem is creating a more uncivilized society.

``It's a form of rudeness that's epidemic,'' said Sue Fox, head of Etiquette Survival based in Los Gatos. ``And it can really take a toll on relationships.''

Fox's daughter-in-law, Anne Fox, said she was not surprised when a few bachelors did not RSVP to her wedding three years ago, but she was stunned when one of her closest friends didn't RSVP until the last minute and didn't show up. She said, ``Our friendship still is not the same.''

Bachelors often are blamed for not grasping the nuances of RSVPing because they are less likely to have women in their lives to act as social secretaries. So, perhaps a single guy doesn't realize that when caterers are charging as much as $100 a head even for heads who don't show up, a no-RSVP is tantamount to fining the host for being foolish enough to invite such a vulgarian. No-shows and uninvited wedding guests often start the happy couple out in life an extra $1,000 or so in debt.

It's not just men

I'm sorry to say I know of more than a few women who are just as clueless as any etiquette-impaired bachelor when it comes to RSVPing. I have listened to one or two lambaste people who have not responded to their invitations even when I happen to know that they themselves are serial non-RSVPers.

Lisa Mirza Grotts, who runs an etiquette firm in San Francisco called The AML Group, was dismayed to find that some of her own friends had to be tracked down to RSVP to her wedding four years ago. ``Really, how difficult is it to check a box and drop a card in the mail?'' she asked. ``People can at least send an e-mail or pick up the phone a few weeks before the event.''

Those who are asked to reply even to simple e-mail invitations to their child's class picnic may not think they need to RSVP. But how is the Mother of the Day supposed to know how many pans of brownies to bake and whether or not she'll need another gallon of Snapple?

It's time to renounce the culture of rudeness that reigned in the '80s and '90s. Taking back the RSVP is ground zero. As Mirza Grotts put it, ``This starts with the parents. Remember that your mother said you must RSVP, and teach your children the same!''

Let the social healing begin.

What do you think? Is this a problem for you? Let us know in the comments below.

-MRF

Kids will be kids, but....

Maybe I'm getting old. Okay, I am old. But when I am waiting to pick up a child at a school, and I begin to fear for our safety on the sidewalk because some rambunctious, loudly swearing, wildly swinging (with large Con Ed barrier pieces) tweenagers decide that it is okay to endanger passers-by with their antics, I get angry. I understand hormones, and showing off, and blowing off steam, and the need for young people to be loud and boisterous and silly. In the city, without many playgrounds and big yards to run around in (though Central Park is three blocks away), the sidewalk becomes the play area and sometimes, the battleground.

These boys dismantled a protective barrier that belonged to Con Edison, and proceeded to spar/joust/parry with the over-sized, hard plastic pieces, and were actually hitting one another, and cars, and whatever else happened to be on the sidewalk. The school's safety officers, that minutes earlier had been joking outside the doors of the school, were now nowhere to be seen. I witnessed three physical fights, with slaps and punches, one involving a group of girls.

Would you want to have your child walk home through this? Or walk near this?

-hmg

Rude: So many choices

We are always trying to find different words for rude. I was on thesaurus.com today and found these. Some we have used and some we have not. There are even more colorful words out there. What are good words that you have used? Comment down below.

Main Entry:	rude
Part of Speech:	adjective
Definition:	disrespectful, rough
Synonyms:	abrupt, abusive, bad-mannered, barbarian, barbaric, barbarous, blunt, boorish, brusque, brutish, cheeky, churlish, coarse, crabbed, crude, curt, discourteous, graceless, gross, gruff, ignorant, illiterate, impertinent, impolite, impudent, inconsiderate, insolent, insulting, intrusive, loutish, low, obscene, offhand, peremptory, raw, savage, scurrilous, short, surly, uncivil, uncivilized, uncouth, uncultured, uneducated, ungracious, unmannerly, unpolished, unrefined, vulgar, wild
Antonyms:	kind, mannerly, nice, polite, respectful

Main Entry:	rude
Part of Speech:	adjective
Definition:	crude, primitive
Synonyms:	angular, artless, barbarous, callow, coarse, formless, fresh, green, ignorant, inartistic, inelegant, inexperienced, inexpert, makeshift, primal, raw, rough, roughhewn, roughly made, rudimental, rudimentary, shapeless, simple, uncivilized, unconversant, uncultivated, unfashioned, unfinished, unformed, unhewn, unpolished, unprocessed, unrefined, wild
Antonyms:	polished, refined, sophisticated

-MRF

I See Rude People - Amy Alkon's Advice

Here's a link to the related article:

Reason.tv: Advice Goddess Amy Alkon on Beating Manners Into Rude People

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Some politicians need a time out....

No matter what side you on, can we just get class back in America? This shouting in the Congress during important moments makes us looks so rude and obnoxious.

It is not pretty the day after....

Dear Drunk Girl:

We have all been where you are before. Having a good time with friends and strangers is not a rude thing. But when you go past the point where you can barely stand up and are bothering people when they are singing karaoke, I think there is a problem. My friend was singing a lovely song (and the only one that did in tune) to our mutual friend, when you decide it is okay for you to speak to him. Not only is it not cool but it is totally obnoxious. And for an encore, you went up and sang (and I use that word very loosely) without any comprehension. Here is the thing: in this day and age when everyone has a camera in their possession, you need to be a little more careful. In fact, some guy, who might have been one of your so-called friends was filming you the whole time. (And by the way: to the guy that did that, you sir, are not a true friend, nor a scholar) As I have said at the beginning of this letter, we have all done our fair share, but I have a feeling this was not your first go around the drunk tank. Have a lovely day and hope the bathroom floor was not too cold last night.

-MRF

Rudness Around the World

In case you are traveling, below is a link to an article about rudeness around the world. There are things that might not seem like it is rude to you but in other countries, it might really offend someone. You might want to take a look if you have red high heels. I am just saying.

http://trifter.com/practical-travel/tips/extraordinarily-rude-behavior-around-the-world/

Do cigarettes make you crazy or just another nutty pedestrian?

Our friend and fan, Cindy, has given us another great true story.

Cindy says:

Long time, no story from me ;o)

On my way home today, I saw this woman smoking a cigarette (already, I judge...) cross against the light and nearly get run over. When she punched the car and yelled at the driver, he yelled back to remind her the light was green. "You still have to look!" she says, right before he turns the corner calling her the Crazy that she is.

So what does she do? She chases him down and attempts to throw her cigarette butt in his open window. Good thing her aim was as bad as her manners.

Please keep those stories, pictures and videos coming. Send them to mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

Aftermath: There is Only One Earth

What do the youth do on St. Patrick's Day? Why, drink, and then throw all their garbage on the ground, of course. And the delicious part, they brought their beer and cups in a bag that says "There is only one earth" [pictured below]. Oh, and then they fight, and yell at the police for making them disperse.

In the youths' defense, there were no garbage cans on the parade route in New York City, so where else could the trash go? Oh, don't make them throw it back into the bag from whence it came!! How tedious! And they are just innocent teens, after all, drinking and fighting and peeing on the trees in Central Park instead of the Port-a-Potty next to them. So, there's that.





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50 reasons why I’m not coming in your shop (or doing business with you) | This is Money

A distinctly British viewpoint on retail/business/clerk rudeness, but universal nonetheless! Click on the link, and enjoy:
50 reasons why I’m not coming in your shop (or doing business with you) | This is Money



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Customer Service - Little Britain

This was eerily similar to my experience at the Mt. Sinai Hospital reception desk last week. I wish I was kidding. The intake dude just stared at me as I stood there, waiting for him to ask me to step forward, and when I said "I wasn't sure if you were finished. I didn't want to bother you..." he looked all bored and said "I'm okay now." Pause. Pause. Pause. And I watched as his co-worker in reception took three customers to his every one, because he could not be bothered to indicate that he was ready to register the next patient. What a JERK. If one is preparing for surgery, has not eaten or had a drink of water in 10 hours, and is scared, the LAST thing you need is an attitude at the reception desk.

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Rude Quotes

To start the week, here are some funny and interesting quotes about being rude that come from different places. Enjoy and if you have any quotes, tell us in the comment section or e-mail us at mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

“New York's such a wonderful city. Although I was at the library today. The guys are very rude. I said, "I'd like a card." He says, "You have to prove you're a citizen of New York." So I stabbed him.”

Emo Philips quotes

“Most young people think they are natural when they are only boorish and rude.”

François de la Rochefoucauld quotes (French classical author, leading exponent of the Maxime, 1613-1680)

“It's a rather rude gesture, but at least it's clear what you mean.”

Katharine Hepburn quotes (American actress)

“It's not a slam at you when people are rude -- it's a slam at the people they've met before.”

“You can't be truly rude until you understand good manners.” Rita Mae Brown quotes

“My view is that to get anywhere in life you have to be anti-social, otherwise you'll end up being devoured. I've never been particularly social, anyway, but if I've ever been rude, fifty per cent of it has usually been provoked by other people's attitudes. Though I do admit, like most Celts, I'm moody. It's fine until people try to cheer you up with gems like, 'snap out of it' or 'Come on, now'.”

Sean Connery quotes (Scottish Actor, Producer and Film Director, b.1930)

This is how our tax dollars are being spent?

I saw this on a my friend's facebook page and thought it was funny.

She wrote:

This was just installed at our local park. SERIOUSLY!?!?!? Is this what our tax dollars are being spent on? No offense to Jefferson, but is this supposed to be inspirational?!?!!




















Apparently, there are three more signs around the park that she says are just as ridiculous!

Thanks for your continued support.

"Oh, my God!" exclaimed one taxi official...

From the New York Post: "In a mind-boggling ripoff that went undetected for years, thousands of city cabbies overcharged nearly 2 million passengers by at least $8.3 million, according to a shocking disclosure yesterday by the Taxi & Limousine Commission.

Officials said 35,558 of the city's 48,300 taxi drivers -- or three-quarters of all the licensees -- were caught overcharging at least once by secretly changing the meter's rate setting.

A staggering 3,000 drivers swindled passengers more than 100 times each. A total of 1.9 million trips were overpriced.

The scale of the thievery over the last 26 months was flabbergasting even to hardened veterans of what is supposed to be a tightly regulated industry.

"Oh, my God!" exclaimed one taxi official.

"When I first heard one guy was doing this, I said there has to be more. But I really didn't expect this."

He was referring to Wasim Khalid Cheema, who lost his hack license earlier this month after authorities found he had cheated 574 passengers in just one month -- this past July -- by setting his meter to Rate Code 4, covering Westchester and Nassau counties, instead of Rate Code 1, the default setting for trips inside the five boroughs.

The suburban rate is double the in-city rate.

The remarkably simple scam netted Cheema an extra $40,000 over six months.

It came to light last year only after a suspicious passenger complained that a 12-minute trip from Manhattan to Queens cost $20.20, about double what she expected.

TLC officials then began comparing data from GPS devices in each cab with meter receipts and made the shocking discovery that the ripoffs were more rampant than anyone could have imagined.

"It would be purely speculative, but I can't believe this was organized," said one city official. "Perhaps there was some word of mouth."

Since GPS devices were only installed over the last couple of years, officials conceded that the wholesale rip-offs could date back years.

The official amount stolen came to $8,330,155 in 1,872,078 trips -- an average of $4.45 per trip.

But officials said they couldn't collect data from one of the three meter vendors that account for about 10 percent of the accounts, so the actual thefts were undoubtedly greater."

Read the full story:

Sneaky cabbies' $8M meter rip-off went on for years - NYPOST.com

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E-mail Rudeness Part Deux

Dear Everyone that has an e-mail:

Sometimes, we just do not have enough time in the day. But let me ask you something, is it really hard to return an e-mail? This is something that drives me crazy and something I find personally rude. We try not to bitch too much on the site, but to point out things and ask questions. Maybe it does take time for you to type yes, no, maybe? Or maybe you think you need to write the great novel of e-mails and think others only expect that from you. Let me just say this, one or two sentences can be good enough. Here is an example:

Dear MRF,

I got your e-mail and I am stuck under a large rock. As soon as I get out I will have a better answer for you.

Best regards,

John X Doe, Esq.

See, not very difficult is it? Tell me what you think below in the comments section. Or do you have some other rude e-mail stories? Send those to mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

-MRF

Oprah gives a rude test

I was checking out Oprah.com, and saw that there was a test about being rude. Check it out and see if you are.

Click this link to view it:

Are You Rude? Take the Test!

Down in front!

Darryl, a fan of the site, sent us some hockey rudeness.

Darryl says:

Hockey etiquette 101: sit the F back in your seat especially after I've asked you to please do so...b@%#*

Remember, he did ask nicely.

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Where you raised in a barn?

A friend and fan of the site, Marianne, was so irritated that she snapped this picture of some rudeness on the subway in New York. The picture speaks for itself. The subway has enough grossness, we do not need to have your nasty feet germs as well.

Introducing Elinor Burkett, the Woman Who 'Pulled a Kanye' at the Oscars

Rudeness at the Oscars!! Click on the link below to get the whole story, originally on Salon.com:

Introducing Elinor Burkett, the Woman Who 'Pulled a Kanye' at the Oscars

Stay out of the trash, please.

This comes for a fan, Samantha from Queens, NY. Not only is this rude, but it is just so wrong.

Samantha says:

Hey rude,
I wanted to let you guys know about something that really pissed me off the other day. To give you some background, I live in my grandfather's house, and he recently passed away. My mother and I have been trying to clean the house up, and decided to throw a few bags of old, dirty clothes out, as well as some old dishes and such. Some of my neighbors must have seen this while I was at class the other day, and decided to take a peek at what we were throwing out. (After a snowstorm over a week ago, sanitation hasn't been picking up garbage when it should be, don't ask me why, snow melted a while ago...). Well this person decided to rip open the bags, take out a bunch of clothes, and leave the clothes all over the sidewalk in front of my house after realizing there was nothing worth taking. I came home to find this mess, and had to re-bag everything. I find it so disrespectful, considering most people on my block know that my grandfather just died, and my family and I have a lot to deal with. I wouldn't have minded if they had been considerate about it, maybe retied the bags and not left clothes everywhere. I guess that's just too much to ask.


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Drivers see all manner of bad manners - latimes.com

It is nice to see when karma appears.
Drivers see all manner of bad manners - latimes.com

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How to Lose Customers and Alienate People

So, when does a manager EVER think it is a good idea to write to a customer, "... go f*** yourself", in response to a customer complaint? Apparently when one is a manager of a movie theater in St. Crois Fall, Minnesota. Who knew Minnesotans could be so rude?

For the whole story from http://www.inc.com/, click here: How to Lose Customers and Alienate People.

And here's a link to the Evergreen Entertainment Corporation's apology letter on it's site:

http://www.evergreen-entertainment.com/default.aspx

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Seriously, please stop spitting in the middle of the sidewalk. Or anywhere on the sidewalk.

I think I walked around four or five distinctly disgusting spit-piles yesterday. For the love of all that is sanitary, if you have a mouthful of phlegm, find a trash can, or a tissue, a sewer drain, or the curb, if nothing else. If you are running in the park, then, okay, you gotta do what you gotta do. But really, your hawking and spitting just to clear your delicate throat makes the rest of us sick. Literally.

-hmg

Bunning unemployment filibuster wasn't over principal but a political feud within the GOP

From www.examiner.com:

"...How many times in the past has Senator Bunning voted for bills that weren't paid for? Better to ask, where was Bunning the last nine years?

Getting the deficit under control and insisting that Congress quit spending without paying is one thing. But to suddenly get the spirit for pay-as-you--go while throwing a few hundred thousand Americans under the bus in this economy really does call one's ethics into question particularly if the real reason has to do with your own political future."

Read the full story by clicking on the link. It is beyond rude. It is disgusting. Playing with thousands of peoples lives to "punish" his fellow Republicans for not supporting his re-election bid is childish and infuriating:

Bunning unemployment filibustered wasn't over principal but a political feud within the GOP

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Gross! Reselling used underwear....yeah, check this out..

I saw this on the Today Show this morning and I felt it was my obligation to share with everyone.

Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

TigerText: An iPhone App for Cheating Spouses?

I saw this and thought this is so rude. But I also thought what has our society come to? What do you think about this? Comment below.

TigerText: An iPhone App for Cheating Spouses?