Holiday Rudeness

We hope that everyone had a great holiday. Did you stuff yourself silly? Is that not the best part? Did your family do some rude and irritating things? Here are some of the rude things that I observed this holiday weekend:

1. Drivers that are in the off ramp lane on the freeway and cut over because they realize they are not suppose to get off yet. Instead they almost crash into you and do not seem to care.

2. Waiters with an attitude. We were eating at a restaurant over the weekend and he was not listening to what we wanted to eat. Instead he felt the need to tell us what we should eat. I know what I want, sir!

3. People that think it is okay to take there time walking across the street, even though the light is clearly changing.

4. An oldie but a goodie: People who think it is okay to talk on their cell phone in a very loud voice at a store. I do not understand how they can not bring the level down.

5. We were getting a manicure, while this women was name dropping and telling everyone who would listen how fabulous she was. Seriously, no one cares.

6. When people text you on your birthday and do not even say happy birthday! (Okay, this is really my personal pet peeve but it did happen)

Do you have any stories, pictures or videos from your holiday rudeness. Please send it to us at mail.heyrude@gmail.com.


-MRF

Shaft

Okay, okay, I KNOW part of living in crappy, small, rent-stabilized apartments in crappy, small apartment buildings is the fact that we have to deal with a variety of inconveniences, outages, and yes, noises. But there is something about this one particular apartment on the fourth floor of my building: no matter who lives there, they insist on keeping their damn shaftway window open and either blaring a previously recorded football game at 3 am when they return home drunk from the bar and pass out on the couch (previous tenant), or they have loud family conversations in the kitchen for, apparently 12 hours a day, every day, until 3 am (present, new tenants). I am beginning to lose my freakin' nice, Wisconsin patience with the constant background jabber as I attempt to relax in my teeny living room, window closed, yet still privy to the entire fracking conversation.

I am about to pull my goddamn Howard Beale impression....


Exhibit A, the shaftway family:



Exhibit B, Peter Finch as Howard Beale:



And if you've never seen Network, then ferchrissake Netflix it right now.

AUGHHHH!

-hmg

Attacking redheads....how rude!

This story is beyond rude. So I moved back to California after living in New York for over 10 years. Click on the link to see what I came back to. And yes, I am a ginger and proud of it!


More attacks on redheads reported at Calabasas school -- latimes.com

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-MRF

Happy Thanksgiving!

We would like to wish everyone a very happy Thanksgiving today. Saying that, we just want you to remember something: if you see someone unbuttoning their pants, or cutting in front of the kids in the food line, or starting an inappropriate discussion, please take a picture or a video and write us about it. Ah, holiday rudeness....it happens. Send anything to us at mail.heyrude@gmail.com. Have a great turkey day!


-MRF

Sun Tea

New York really, really needs to get more public restrooms. Though, on second thought, I am not sure male cabbies would use them anyway. I just think dudes like to whiz in weird places. It's a guy thing.

Maybe this bottle was actually tossed from the construction pick-up truck...again, not many free places to pee = bottle of pee on floor of the car.

Seriously, gross.

(What do lady cabbies do?? Wait, wait - I really don't think I want to know....)

-hmg

Art imitates life

My mother, Rose, was delighted to witness a bit of cell-phone-shouting revenge last weekend. As she was riding the bus, a young woman got on the phone and started loudly inquiring, in French, whether she could invite a friend over to spend the night. A lovely, well-dressed couple sitting near my mother were also subjected to the shouty-talk, and the gentleman decided to respond, in French, and as loudly, to the queries made by the French blabber. Much like the webisode we filmed!




Mom was so amused to witness this bit of passive vigilantism, she ended up talking to the couple, and told them to check out our site and the above webisode. This is for them, and for Rose. Thanks for spreading the word in Seattle, Mom!!

-hmg

Happy trails.......not!

So as of today heyrude.com is officially a bi-coastal website. This means that California should watch out, you never know when your rudeness will be caught on camera! Anyway, below is a little letter to the airport/airlines:

Dear USA airlines and airport employees:

Yesterday, thanks to all of you wonderful people, was the most hectic morning of travel I have had in a long time. Just for the record, I have done the travel thing quite a few times, so to the airport employee that decided to give me a lecture when I was clearly upset, kind of not the smoothest move. I know I am suppose to be at the airport early but clearly since you can not do your job correctly, security took even longer then it should have. I am the first person that thinks all security measures should be taken at the airport. Seriously though, JFK do you not think it is time for you to know what you are doing? Also, to the airline I flew yesterday, really charging me $30 for the first bag that I checked in and $50 for the second? That is highway robbery! I do not have a witty or intelligent thing to say but you suck!

On top of it all, could all of you been just a little nicer about the whole thing? I mean money is tight for a lot of people. They have other choices of airlines, so you might want to just be a wee bit friendlier. Kindness does go a long way and rudeness does not (unless it is for a website!). Anyway, hope to not see any of you soon.

-MRF

I relax, when i see your dating profile.

Ah, the spammy, porny, exotic-sounding badness of it all...

Welcome to my email inbox:

"from Albertawa Qbqn

date Sun, Nov 22, 2009 at 2:43 PM

subject I relax, when i see your dating profile.

Heeeya!!!
What is the news?
People call me Natasha
I search for the man of the dream.
I very much would like, if you have told about the life.
Would like to read from you an e-mail the message.
I hope to see you soon."

-hmg

From Gawker: You give no respect, you get 10 times back...

[image from the New York Post's Daniel Shapiro]

The website Gawker has a fabulous example of rudeness in the workplace - and sad to say, in the restaurant business, especially in Manhattan, this type of behavior is not rare. It is just unusual to have written proof:


"Vadim Ponorovsky, the owner of Paradou, a restaurant in the Meatpacking district, described on its website as a "light-filled, airy oasis... filled with warmth and charm," really REALLY wants waitstaff to collect email addresses from customers, presumably so he can spam them. Here's the happy, team-building email he sent out, from a tipster.

To All,

Please read this email carefully. This is the last time we will be discussing this.

This weekend, saturday and sunday we had 451 customers. Guess how many emails we collected? 60? 80? 40? No. None of those. We, or more acurately you, collected 2 emails. Thats less than half of one percent. 2 fucking emails.

WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU ASSHOLES?!?!?! How many times do we have to tell you how important it is that you collect emails. Everytime we have a slow night and you make no money and you sit there bitching about how you make no money, remember its because youre fucking lazy motherfuckers. YOU SHOULD ALL BE FIRED IMMEDIATELY!!!!! ALL OF YOU, INCLUDING THE HOSTS!!!!

Let me guess, youre probably sitting there saying "Vadim is such a fucking asshole. How dare he speak to me like this. I dont need this." Youre right, you dont, so why dont you get the fuck out. Any and all of you.

Youre probably sitting there saying "How dare he speak to me like this. How dare he not have respect for me". Youre right there also. I have absolutely no respect for any of you. Why? Because every fucking day, all of you continue to show that you have absolutely no respect for me or Alex. So if you dont respect us enough to do the little that we ask you to do, then GET THE FUCK OUT YOU FUCKING LAZY DISRESPECTFUL ASSHOLES!!!!!

Effective immediately, any server or host who fails to collect at least 20 emails per week, will be fined $100. Anyone failing to collect at least 20 emails for two weeks in a month will be fired immediately. No matter what. No matter who you are.

You dont want to do your job, you dont want to do what we ask, you dont belong at Paradou. Go find another place to work.

How dare you disrespect Alex and me this way. How dare you completely ignore what we ask of you time after time after time.

I am sick of all this shit, you bunch of fucking children. This is what I have to deal with at 6AM?!?!? I wouldnt tolerate this from my 13 year old, and Im sure as shit not going to tolerate it from any of you assholes.

You give no respect, you get 10 times back. "

After Gawker posted the story and email, there was a backlash. And the story was picked up by several prominent food blogs, restaurant review sites, and now the major papers.

Vadim is not happy.

Gawker has a follow-up story, including the delightful owner's reaction: http://gawker.com/5409571/horrible-restaurant-owners-charm-offensive-includes-screaming-at-us

Ah, hubris.

-hmg

You are no Lady Gaga.....

Dear Lady Sourness-

I just wanted to take the time to send you a note. You remember me, right? The one who was trying to open that heavy door with a million things in her hand. You know, how you looked on like you were annoyed instead of helping me with it? I realized after the incident that you must be so unhappy that it never occurs that you could help out others when they are struggling. If someone feel down in front of you, I have a feeling you would just walk over he and/or she. Maybe if you would try to be a little nicer, even just a smile, you would feel better. Well on second thought, maybe you just need a little fiber.

-MRF

Step aside please

Is it just me or is there some unspoken rule that if you are not going to walk up the escalator then step to right? Call me crazy, but some people might want to get by.

Hey rich ladies in your fur coats, this is NOT a parking space....

Grrrrrr. This happens constantly here in NYC....

-hmg

The New Pornographers

Wow.

My brother had told me about his friend who watches porn on his iPod while in class, but I had no idea people were making a habit of doing this in libraries, airplanes, and public transportation:

From The Washington Post:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/11/AR2009111127404.html

- hmg

Examples of workplace rudeness

Below is a link to an article from cnn.com that was right up our alley. Since it is the beginning of the work week for most people, here is something to get you through the day:

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/worklife/04/01/cb.workplace.rudeness/index.html

Have a good day.

-MRF

Passive Aggressive Notes - rudeness in written form!

We see it on Facebook statuses (I had one directed at me last week - hey, thanks!), Twitter, and on Post-it notes in the office. The hostile feelings written for all the world to see and interpret, aimed at one (or a chosen few). Ah, so very juvenile, and yet deeply satisfying; "I will embarrass you, but don't have the cojones to approach you directly."

This why blogs were invented; to do the same thing, but with pictures!

PassiveAggressiveNotes.com is a hilarious site that has pages and pages (and pages!) of these gems...while away your Sunday giggling at the scribbled fury:



-hmg

World Kindness Day

In light of today being World Kindness Day, and in honor of Veteran's Day (which was Wednesday), we thought it would be a good time to reflect on the things that give us joy, and fill us with gratitude, and generally make us realize how simple it is to bring happiness to a person. Or canine.

Huffington Post is airing videos of soldiers returning home to their beloved dogs, and the reactions are, well, you'll see. Below is just one example, but make sure to go to to the HuffPo site and view them all - especially the top five: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/13/dogs-greet-soldiers-retur_n_356672.html?slidenumber=HvIrShMjkbg%3D#slide_image.




-hmg

Mr. Cab Driver.....

Taxi Drivers are not supposed to speak on their cell phones while driving you in a cab. I do not know about you, but when I pay someone to drive me somewhere, I would like them to pay attention to the road. Am I wrong?




Just when I think that he had to stop talking.........




To all the drivers of the world, please, at least wait until I am out of the car. Thanks and have a lovely day.

-MRF

Don't put your mouth where your money was...

Thanks to this fan of the site for sending a picture of unsanitary practices!



"Food workers who don't clean their hands! I've been waiting in line for ten minutes and this women worked the register and put her hands in the food."

Yup, money is pretty dang filthy, and food workers who handle bills should wash hands, or at the very least put on plastic gloves before handling food. Though, honestly, I've eaten at New York City hot dog carts for lo these many years, and I'm still standing. And I've yet to see ANY of those guys wash their hands....

And to all the veterans out there: we thank you for your service and sacrifices so that we can live in this amazing country. As much as we like to make fun of rude behavior, we are humbled by your service. We are truly grateful.

-hmg

The wheels on the bus go round and round.....

Today I had a very interesting bus ride across town. There were actually so many things happening, I did not know where to look. The first video shows this guy who was originally sitting in front of me with his girlfriend. Then his phone rang and he got up and went to the seat behind me. This was so he did not disturb his lady. Of course, I as well as the other passengers were invisible. You can also see by my spy cam that he decided to stretch out while people where standing. Please go ahead and make yourself comfy.




Then the dude was asked to move his legs as a woman sat with him. Well she decided that she might as well get on the phone too. I mean he was on the phone, why could she not enjoy having a mundane conversation as well. He finally got off his stop. In turn, she decided that she should go ahead and make herself at home. This was my cue to move seats. And the funny thing was, she was still on the phone the whole time. Exhibit B below:





Seriously? You could not wait less then a half an hour to use your phone, so not to disturb others? Thanks for the memories.

-MRF

Do not ruin my date night!

My sister, Rachel, sent this to me. It is really amazing that the same thing happened to us on Friday in a different state. Unfortunately there is no picture or video, because she actually listened to the rules.

Rachel says:

So last night we went to see Kooza (cirque du soleil)...awesome show, right? We paid a lot for the tickets and although it is loud, it is not okay to talk and be a commentator during the show. The people behind us got in trouble for taking pictures twice! (not once, but twice!) Then they talked throughout the whole thing. Seriously! They were adults. I could not believe it! So rude! and the girl next to me had too much to drink and she smelled!
arrrggg!

Please keep the stories, pictures and videos coming to us at mail.heyrude@gmail.com. Thanks for your support.

-MRF

Teach your parents well...

[image from Luster Studios ]

Rosario wrote to us, weary of rudeness in church:

"Some of the things that annoy me while in Sunday mass are having to hear children laughing, talking, and babies crying their lungs out but the number one peeve is their mothers not doing anything about it (just because you can ignore it doesn't mean the rest of us can) !!!!!!

I know it is not the kid's fault, but what are their mothers doing?? I mean, you either teach your child to be respectful and quiet (yes, it can be done), don't take them (if you know they don't have the ability to stay still), or TAKE THEM OUTSIDE if they begin to have a meltdown.

C'mon ladies!! I can't stand the fact that they wait until everyone is looking at them or until the priest asks them politely to take the munchkin outside.

I know children are unpredictable (I have a 3 & 1 year old), but we shouldn't wait for other people to tell us when to control them!!!!!!"

-hmg

Try a little tenderness...

[picture from Donna Flagg - check out her customer rant.]

Shalene from South Carolina asks customers for a little empathy:

"...Why is it that adults are under the impression that it is fine to raise your voice and curse at people who work in banks? It happens on a regular basis. Never in response to me being rude but always to me following my company policies and guidelines.

I don't get it."

If you get frustrated by rudeness, why not tell us about it? Take a picture, a video, or just write us a good story about your experiences. Send them to mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

-hmg

A live comedy show is the perfect place for yappin' and kicking my feet up, right??!!??

This delightful lady answered her phone and brayed "I'M AT MADISON SQUARE GARDEN SEEING DANE COOK. YEAH. YEAH. UNH-HUH. HAHAHAHA RIGHT. YEAH. I AM THAT FRIEND KAREN THE DOUCHEBAG!! YES, THAT IS ME FOR SURE..."

Okay, I might be paraphrasing a bit, but you get the rude idea:


The ladies on our right thought putting their boots over and on the seats in front of them was a comfy, relaxing thing to do. I am sure the patrons on both sides appreciated their stank-foot chillaxin' as well. Stay classy, girls!

These same ladies were also the type to loudly verbalize their every reaction with full sentences and commentary, a favorite for comics and nearby patrons alike:

"OH MY GOD THAT IS SO GROSS! I DO THAT! YES! THAT IS FUNNY! OH MY GOD! DID HE SAY COLD STONE CREAMERY? WHAT IS THAT? WHY DID HE SAY THAT? OH MY GOD. NO. THAT IS SO TRUE. OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. INDEED. PRECISELY. I CONCUR. I AM SAYING WHAT COMES INTO MY BRAIN-HOLE EXACTLY AS I THINK IT. I AM A SIEVE OF THOUGHT. I FEEL THE NEED TO SHARE EVERYTHING I AM FEELING BY UTTERING IT IN MY GUTTERAL WAY UNTIL THE LADY NEXT TO ME PUMMELS ME TO DEATH WITH HER BEER BOTTLE...OH MY GOD...."

-hmg

Check out this site...rude, crude, and hilarious!

Melissa's awesome mom, Fern, forwarded us a link (via her friend Jeri) to People of Walmart. It is a thing of beauty. And, though it may be somewhat rude of us to find it so dang funny, you must see it for yourself and decide: http://www.peopleofwalmart.com/.

Below are some choice samples...

-hmg

So we keep waiting (waiting) on the world to change...

Andrew from San Francisco has a couple of rude incidents related to waiting in line (or, as they say in New York "waiting on line":

"Hey Rude, here are two related rude incidents that drive me nuts.

First, I am patiently waiting in a medium long line at McDonalds at lunchtime in downtown San Francisco, the busiest time of day for this restaurant. The wait is probably about 7 – 8 minutes or so, plenty of time to decide what I want to eat. The woman in front of me has an equally long wait, and there are many people behind me. But, when it is her turn to order (finally, after the 8 minute wait), she *then* first looks at the menu and takes an interminably long time to decide what it is she wants to order, and to top it all off, engages in chit chat with the counterperson.

HELLO – there are a lot of people behind you -- why didn’t you use the 8 minute wait to figure out what you wanted, and why are you engaging in idle chit chat when there is a LONG LINE BEHIND YOU? Doesn’t she realize there are people waiting behind her who need to order and eat their lunch before their lunch hour is through?

She is just being rude and selfish, not figuring out her order in advance of being asked by the counterperson, and then wasting additional time chatting him up.

I HATE THAT.

Related rude incident – driving across the Golden Gate Bridge during rush hour, long lines develop at the toll plazas. The driver in front of you stops to pay their toll, and takes forever to come up with the cash, and THEN starts asking questions of the toll taker (God knows what about…directions? Nice weather?). Why didn’t this driver get the cash during the wait when we were all stopped? Why is the driver talking to the toll taker? GET YOUR MONEY OUT OF YOUR WALLET WHILE YOU ARE WAITING, PAY YOUR TOLL AND MOVE ON – there are a lot of people behind you!

Why is there such rude line behavior like this?

Andy, from San Francisco, California"

Thanks, Andy. Keep sending us great rude stories!! mail.heyride@gmail.com.

-hmg

At the movies

Dear Fellow Movie Goers-

As Michael Jackson says, I say this with love. First, is it really that difficult to put away your phone and not look at it for two hours? Even though the ringer is off, when you look at the phone in the dark, others can see it. If you really have the need to look at your crackberry and can not make it the two hours, may I suggest that you do not go to the movie theater at all. You can watch movies at home and this way everyone involved is happy.

Second, I would like to ask: Do you think that not talking for two hours is too much of a challenge? Here is the thing, if I wanted to hear you do commentary during the film then I would have paid you, not the theater. Call me crazy, when I go to the movies I like to just watch and hear the actors on screen. Again if you have an affliction of not being able to keep your mouth shut, then I would once again suggest that you not come to the theater and watch movies at home.

I would also like to say something to the person that took off his shoes. For the record, I think it is totally gross. But I can not really complain, since you did not stink. In the future though, you might want to rethink the shoe thing. It is only my opinion.

Remember heal the world and make it a better place. (See the great things you can learn if you pay attention to the movie!)


-MRF

I pity the fool...

Melissa, a fan from Boston, sent us this picture of a delicious swamp of rudeness.

She writes:

"This was on a seat during the packed, busy 5pm commute on the T in Boston, MA. A puddle of fruit punch sloshing around.

Who does stuff like this? So rude!"


Indeed.

-hmg

Get your feet off my seat!

A picture is worth a thousand words. Matthew sent us this, and all he said was:

"People sit here"


Keep sending us pictures and videos at mail.heyrude@gmail.com!

-MRF