So if you meet me, have some courtesy, have some sympathy, and some taste...

This adorable, non-Satan-worshipping fan wants to spread Halloween cheer, so quit raining on her fun parade!! See her brief but heartfelt post below her picture:

"Its very rude to tell someone who loves halloween that they worship the devil bcuz of it. I'm catholic. I worship god jesus and the holy ghost not satan."

Keep on loving Halloween, readers! And keep sending submissions (and pictures of rudeness, or videos of dreadful behavior, or drawings of impolite folks) to mail.heyrude@gmail.com....

Happy Halloween!! BOOOO!!!!

-hmg

People in motion, people in motion....

A fan submitted this story all the way from Cali-forn-i-a!!

[ image by mmcallen / Mike McAllen on Flickr]

Dear HeyRude:

I live in the SF Bay Area and ride the BART train to work every day. Every day the train fills up with passengers very quickly to the point where it's tightly packed standing-room-only. Every day there are people who decide to wander from car to car pushing their way through the center aisle that's already jam-packed with people standing and holding on to the rails as the train lurches from stop to stop.

Who are these people? Why do they feel the need to try and re-locate on a train that's packed to the gills with morning commuters? Why does this bizarrely restless nomadic tribe of passengers always seem to have giant backpacks strapped to their backs aggressively bludgeoning other passengers as they push their way through like NFL running backs? Where are they going? Do they believe there's a secret train car somewhere where there are plenty of seats and attendants who serve you scones and orange juice? What's that all about?

If you could look into that, I'd sure appreciate it.

-Erik in California

Stop talking, no one wants to hear it

We have discussed this before but of course it happens all the time. I was on the bus minding my own business. All of a sudden this guy starts talking on his cell phone behind me about nothing. So I turned my phone around and taped a bit, not knowing if I actually got it since I could not see what I was filming. Why do people think it is okay to talk on the phone in enclosed places? I do not get it.




-MRF

Boom Boom POW!!

A fan wrote us, mad as hell, and not taking it anymore:

"Dear Rude Thumping Bass Coming From Your Car Guy........

Seriously, what makes you think that I or anyone for the 1/2 a mile in any direction of your car want to hear what music you are jamming out to? Plus, not only do we all get to hear your obnoxious music and bass, but, we get to vibrate in our own cars. Oh yeah, let's not forget that everyone around doesn't give a crap what kind of music you prefer, we have our own. This is RUDE, gives many people a headache, and some people nausea.

Turn the crap down!!!

Kristi "

For your listening pleasure, but not so loud that it vibrates Kristi's car, here's "Boom Boom Pow" by the Black-Eyed Peas :




-hmg

Go ahead, make yourself comfy, we love to stand....

A fan, Matthew, sent us this submission...more seat hogging...plus, a bit of the old wide-leg (we cropped the picture to hide faces):

"I was on the bus after school (high school), and this girl was taking up 2 seats when people are standing up in the back."

We love the pictures...keep on snapping away!!

-hmg

Rude News

I was going to write a bit about the Northwest Airlines pilots overshooting the Minneapolis airport by 150 miles and their claims that they were neither sleeping nor arguing (what were they doing?? Making out? Watching Dr. Zhivago? Quilting?), but until we understand fully what happened, I can't claim it as rude behavior. But I am pretty dang sure it is rude to forget to land: http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/10/26/airliner.flyby/

[picture from Gothamist]

So I will just report the rudeness of the opera singer Gabriela Pochinki, as reported by Gothamist (via the New York Daily News and NY Post), who decided it was okay to put a business conversation on speakerphone at a NYC restaurant, and then proceed to yammer loudly and disregard several attempts by the management to quiet her down. Then Pochinki pushed the manager after the last attempt to silence her loud mouth. Police were called (yes!) and the stupid diva was arrested, and given a desk appearance ticket. According to the NY Post (and quoted in Gothamist) she apologized and said, "I'll never talk on a cellphone again in a restaurant." Right. http://gothamist.com/2009/10/25/opera_diva_blames_mj_for_disorderly.php

Any news of rudeness in your area? Let us hear about it....and pictures are always appreciated! Mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

-hmg

Another fan submission- Line Jumper

Christina says:

A while ago, I had to rush over to Office Depot to pick up some supplies. It was around 7 PM, so the store was empty and my sister and I were able to grab our stuff quickly. There was a woman paying in front of us and that was about it. Just as we were going to put our stuff on the counter, a man jumps in front of us and hands all his stuff to the cashier. Not only did he jump in front of two girls (only 14 and 15 years old), but we were only buying a pack of markers and a pack of pens and we had the money in our hands. After he had left, the cashier apologized for his behavior.

Keep sending in the submissions with pictures and video. Send it mail.heyrude@gmail.com

Reader Submission: Nobody likes a moocher...

Hey Rudesters, we had a fantastic response to our appearance on the Tyra Show yesterday - thank you to all our newest fans for checking us out! Our email inbox is filling with rude stories....keep them coming, and also send your rude pictures and videos to mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

The following is from a new Rude fan:

"Hello Ladies!

I saw your website on the Tyra show and I love it! I have a "Hey Rude Rant" for you...

I have a friend who never has money to pay for her meals when we eat out. She always asks me to pay for the meal once we get to the restaurant, and fails to mention on the way to dine that she has no money to pay.

This girl also doesn't ever offer me any money for gasoline when we go places together. However, she does have money to buy expensive make up and lavish jewelry that I could never afford. She has paid me back a couple of times for meals and for things I have purchased for her on shopping trips, but not near as much as I have loaned her, and it is always weeks and weeks if she does pay me back. I have stopped talking to her because this is disrespectful and insulting to me. I feel she is very narcissistic to behave this way.

Maybe if I wasn't always having to buy her Big Macs, I would have money to spend on pretty things, too.

Sincerely,
'Grow up, Girl!'"

Rude Webisodes - check'em out!

Make sure to check out our Hey Rude webisodes on YouTube (type in "Heyrude1" for all the episodes)...here's the link: http://www.youtube.com/user/HeyRude1#p/u and a sampling of webisodes below. Our friend Jon Ecklund of Dream Out Loud Media was the brilliant videographer and co-editor (Melissa and Helene also edited). Thanks also to our actor friends Fiona and Vince for their great work! Any ideas for new webisodes, or pictures, video, and tales of rudeness are always welcomed. Keep your camera, iPhone, cellphone ready to snap away at any offenders! Send them to us at mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

It is a big day!

So here is a little food for thought for you on this fabulous Friday:

Do you not think it is rude when you are crossing the street and a driver who is trying to turn gets mad at you? You have the right of way! Let us know what you think - comment below.

Oh yeah, also...... Melissa Friedman and Helene Gresser (co-creators of Hey Rude) are going to be on the Tyra Banks Show today! Check your local listings because she is syndicated all over the country.

Thanks for the support everyone, and if you have any pictures and/or videos of rudeness, remember to send it to mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

Tyra! Tyra!

Hey Rude dudes and dudettes: don't forget to watch us on the Tyra Banks Show tomorrow, October 23rd, on the CW network (4 pm EST). We show some pictures from the site, including one reader submission! If you send us a rude picture or story, you have a chance at national exposure, just like the Heene family! Balloon boy, get outta the way......

-hmg

Spell Check please.....

I am the first to admit that I am not a terrific speller. But how does a major organization get the name of one of their own spelled wrong? My friend, Jennifer, was at the NBA store on 5th Avenue in New York City, when all of a sudden she was looking at the names of the basketball teams and noticed that Sacramento was spelled incorrectly. The proof is below in the pictures. Is it not a bit rude and insulting to the Sacramento Kings that the NBA store can not even get the spelling right? Oh and side note, Sacramento is the capital of California, so is that not rude to the whole state? It is a bit baffling.

-MRF

Thanks for eating a banana in my face, lady on the subway!

Why did this lady have to FACE me to chow down on her banana...she very easily could have turned for a bit of privacy, but no, Chiquita Banana-lady thought macka-macka banana sounds and smells would be just fine six inches from my face. So delightful.

-hmg

Please return e-mails and phone calls

This is something I know that everyone in the world can relate to. You can't put a picture with it, so a description is the only way. What is it with people who do not return e-mails and/or phone calls? Now, we all get busy because of life and cannot return messages right away. But seriously, how long does it actually take to write a quick response? It is just rude. What if someone is waiting for you to respond to a party? Is it that hard to say yes or no? Someone calls you to see if you are coming to brunch with others? You cannot call and just give a quick response? It happens so often, has it happened to you? Comment below and tell us your frustration!


-MRF

Hey! We're relevant! NYTimes' 'Complaint Box' hates Izombies as well....

So...the New York Times 'Complaint Box' asks readers to submit "screeds, tirades, and rants" - much like our lovely l'il site (by sheer coincidence, both debuted on the same day this past June!) - and their most recent submission was a rant against the people who STILL insist on standing at the top or bottom or middle (see below) of stairways to yap on their phones. Because, y'know, that's not annoying at all.

Keep it up folks...

Check out the Complaint Box article in full. And make sure to read the comments!
http://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/10/16/complaint-box-immobile-on-thephone/?hp

'...more than a little sleazy': a columnist insinuates the 'dangerous lifestyle' of singer Stephen Gately killed him.

So my pal from the UK, James, gave us a heads up regarding a column written by Jan Moir in The Daily Mail (and the subsequent 'furore') about Stephen Gately. In the column, Moir insinuated that Gately, formerly of the pop band Boyzone, and who died last week from pulmonary edema, had smoked some 'cannabis' and had a possible threesome with his longtime partner and a Bulgarian man the night of his death, so maybe that's what actually killed him. A joint and a menage a trois led to the death of a 33-year-old. Not his 'previously undiagnosed heart condition' that led to the pulmonary edema, which is what Gately's family and the medical examiners said were his cause of death. No, being a swinger, a GAY swinger who smoked pot, killed him. Right.

Excerpted from the last few paragraph of the column (I made bold and italicized the words for emphasis):

"Gay activists are always calling for tolerance and understanding about same-sex relationships, arguing that they are just the same as heterosexual marriages. Not everyone, they say, is like George Michael.

Of course, in many cases this may be true. Yet the recent death of Kevin McGee, the former husband of Little Britain star Matt Lucas, and now the dubious events of Gately's last night raise troubling questions about what happened.

It is important that the truth comes out about the exact circumstances of his strange and lonely death.
As a gay rights champion, I am sure he would want to set an example to any impressionable young men who may want to emulate what they might see as his glamorous routine.

For once again, under the carapace of glittering, hedonistic celebrity, the ooze of a very different and more dangerous lifestyle has seeped out for all to see."

[Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1220756/A-strange-lonely-troubling-death--.html#ixzz0UDl8g9YA ]

Well, the column received thousands of angry complaints, advertisers withdrew from the paper, and The Guardian wrote an article documenting the reactions, writing:

"Moir's article, published on the eve of the singer's funeral in Dublin, sparked a storm of protest on the internet, led by Stephen Fry and Derren Brown on the messaging site Twitter, on which they have a combined following of almost one million.

Fry wrote: "I gather a repulsive nobody writing in a paper no one of any decency would be seen dead with has written something loathsome and inhumane. Disgusted with Daily Mail's Jan Moir? Complain where it matters. She breaches 1,3,5 & 12 of the code."

By this evening the PCC had handled 1,000 emails and calls complaining about inaccuracies, insensitivity to Gately's family and alleged homophobia. The PCC's deputy director, Stephen Abell, said officials contacted Boyzone's PR company yesterday "to let them know what had happened and to make themselves available if they wanted to complain".

The names and numbers of the corporate advertisers on the article's web page were posted on a Facebook group called "The Daily Mail should retract Jan Moir's hateful, homophobic article".

"We have asked the Daily Mail to move our advert away from the article," said a spokesman for Marks & Spencer. Asked why, he said: "That is a matter for the Daily Mail." A spokesman for Nestle said it had received several complaints, and added: "The views in the article are not shared by Nestle. We have always emphasised the importance of mutual respect and tolerance." http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/2009/oct/16/stephen-gately-boyzone

Moir's kind of nudge-nudge wink-wink I-don't-know-what-really-happened-but-I-can-just-imagine homophobic gossip goes beyond rude - it is not based on fact, or witnesses, or truth, but crap yellow journalism and hate-mongering disguised as "reporting."

What do you think?

-hmg

You Stink!

So the other night I had the honor of being at a movie premiere. You think, how cool people will be. Maybe they will be a little fancier and even a bit classy. Well I am sitting in my seat waiting for the movie to start and suddenly smell something rancid. Let me give you a better picture: It smelled like someone had taken off their shoes which had not been washed in weeks. Well I start to panic a bit because I think, great I have to deal with this for the next two hours. Well I overhear the people behind me talking and this girl said: oh I just came from the gym, that is my gym bag. I found out from a reliable source that fresh sweat does not smell that bad. Clearly this girl had not washed something because it definitely smelled like something died. So the moral of the story is please do not bring your smelly gym bag to an enclosed space. It is not only gross, it is totally rude.

Do you have a story, picture and/or video that you want to share with us? Please send it to mail.heyrude@gmail.com.

Oh yeah, and check us out on The Tyra Banks Show on October 23rd!

-MRF

"If a stunning size 4 model is too overweight to look good in their clothes, then they need to change their clothes, not the model."

[image from Gothamist]

Photoshop a model to look a Bratz doll - pretty dang rude:
http://gothamist.com/2009/10/15/ralph_lauren.php

-hmg

There's gotta be something better than this...

How much more crap from the MTA and TWU (Transit Workers Union) are we supposed to take? If it's not mismanagement of billions of dollars, crumbling stations and platforms, unfulfilled promises of screens with arrival times posted in stations, mumbled, distorted or rude announcements recited too quickly or unintelligibly by conductors and station agents, and malfunctioning Metrocard terminals, then it is a system-wide "slow-down" by disgruntled (when are they ever 'gruntled'?) transit workers and bus drivers who feel they deserve an 11% pay raise. Augh. Time to buy a bike.

Quick question: why does it ALWAYS smell like someone peed in the back of the bus - especially in the back doorwell??

-hmg

Is it rude or is it just me?

The following is definitely a pet peeve of mine and I think it is rude. What do you think?-

Dear random lady sitting next to me in the nail salon:

So getting your nails done is a luxury that you want to enjoy. As you know, the very small salon that both of us were sitting in had the radio on. Billy Joel, who I like, came on and all of a sudden I realized he was not the only one singing. Just so you know, I could hear you. Unless you are actually Billy Joel, or maybe someone like Jennifer Hudson, please do not sing. In fact do not sing in any small space that you must share with others. I am not trying to say this to be mean but to help in your future endeavors and to save the hearing of others. Thank you and have a nice day.

-MRF

Hey Bigfoot,Comfy??

Not only was this feller sitting sideways in a forward-facing seat, he was needin' to stretch and cross his pegs halfway into the aisle. No prob, Bub, as long as you pay attention and move'em back in when the people load onto the bus. Nope, he just made folks walk around 'em or almost trip over 'em on their way down the lane. When jerks do this, I deliberately kick their feet on my way out, and then turn and say "Oh my, excuuuuse me! I didn't see your feet wayyy out there! Sooooo sorry!"

So, I can be rude as well, sometimes.... and it feels sooooo good.

-hmg

Er, no.

Yes, it's a pain to lug kids and a strolller onto public transportation and also juggle with paying, keeping the wee one from falling, and folding the damn contraption at the same time. I understand - I've done it. But the cruddy thing can go on the floor, mmmmkay?

-hmg

Reader Submission - seat hawgs on the subway

Thanks to Hey Rude fan, Patrick, for this :

"Love that bag on seat while someone stands next to you. Meanwhile this couple sits across from her. Note that the guy holds a crutch. Nice! ...This was the uptown N from Union Square. The girl was sitting there oblivious. The guy with the crutch hobbled onto the train with his girlfriend a couple of stops later. (34th, I think) (I had already given my seat to an elderly passenger). I kinda give the large UPS guy a pass, he was looking pretty tired, but he did take up a lot of space. So the girl perched on the boyfriends' not bad leg. Oblivious girl never moved until Lex & 59th, when another elderly lady pushed her way in between. - Patrick"

Remember to email your stories and pictures to us at mail.heyrude@gmail.com!

Workplace Rudeness

Our friend Cindy, sent us this. I guess some people do not know how to write down notes during a meeting:

Cindy says: This time I'm telling on my coworkers. Seriously, take notes or take a picture.






-MRF

Thank goodness the MTA has improved it's public address system. Oh, and raised the rates again...

I saw this on my friend and fellow Ohio University alum Poppi Kramer's Facebook page. (Btw, Poppi is a hilarious comedian whom you might have also seen on The Biggest Loser.) Poppi says this video is " stolen from david who stole it from brooke. unbelievable. genius. this is why i will never leave nyc." [It was posted on http://www.youtube.com/ by dchadwick.]

-hmg

Tis not a step-stool, milady of the shortpants...

This was taken at the Cleveland-Hopkins Airport. The be-shortpanted lady was yapping to her pal and thought the seat would be a great place to rest her weary sole. Uh, no.

-hmg

Big News for Hey Rude!

The co-creators of www.heyrude.com, Melissa Friedman and Helene Gresser, will be appearing on the Tyra Banks Show on October 23rd. Check your local listings and set your DVRs!

Please close your mouth....

Dear Rude Couple that likes to keep talking-

So here we are on a beautiful day and on a walking tour. The woman leading the tour is telling us some interesting facts about what we are seeing. It is difficult to hear her because we are outside. You two decide that it is okay to talk and comment on everything our leader is saying. Here is the thing, I am on this tour not to hear your voice so please shut your trap! No one wants to hear your comments. You are not in your home in front of the TV. If you want to talk to each other just go and be on your way. Thank you and have a nice day!

-MRF

Proving My Point.....

Just proving the point-

Visit msnbc.com for Breaking News, World News, and News about the Economy

Father of the Year award goes to....

Dear Jon G.-

I am sitting here and watching you and your so-called lawyer on TV. Not only are you both rude, you are also the biggest hypocrites I have ever seen. As soon as people did not want you around and on TV you decide to become a good father. I think it is a little late to decide your kids should not be on TV. Please get over yourself, and let your soon to be ex wife deal with the decisions right now. Have a lovely day.

-MRF

You are not that important

Below is a video that I got on my cellphone. It is of a guy who clearly thinks he is really important. If you are going to have one of those Nextel type phones, we do not need to hear the whole conversation.




-MRF

Double-parked for no reason....

Why does this delivery truck need to double-park? Why is it better to block or restrict traffic, endanger the delivery guy unloading the truck into the street, potentially slow down emergency vehicles trying to get by, and generally be in the way? When there is ample space, with no parking allowed to block the truck if it parked next to the curb, why do this??

-hmg

When that shark bites with his teeth, dear...

[UPDATE: Ann Minch is the woman in the BofA credit card rant, and there is a good follow-up story here: http://money.cnn.com/2009/09/29/news/companies/youtube_bank_of_america/index.htm?section=money_pf -hmg]

Citibank has raised my Annual Percentage Rate (APR) to 29.99% for no reason other than "the economy." All my credit card companies are doing this to me in one way or another during this very hard year - a year of recession, unemployment, and taxpayers footing the bill to keep banks afloat. I am a taxpayer. I pay my bills on time, sometimes twice a month, I am never late, and do not go over my limit. I carry debt, yes, especially since losing my day job in June. I have had my card for over 12 years, and now, because I tried five times to negotiate a lower rate and failed, I've had to cancel my card to pay off the balance at the old rate (12%). Cancelling this card will lower my credit score. Fuck you, credit card companies, for punishing your best and most loyal customers.

The video below is from another frustrated card holder - this time, it is Bank of America. After this video aired and received attention from the media, BofA changed her rate back to what it had been previously. Nice, but the rest of us are still being bent over and there seems to be nothing we can individually do about it.

Seriously rude, jerks.

-hmg